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5 Signs of Low Self Worth and How It Could Be Affecting Your Love Life

Deshvidesh — Tue, 27 Feb 2018 12:34:55 +0000

5 Signs of Low Self Worth and How It Could Be Affecting Your Love Life

hey say you can only love others as much as you love yourself, and as tired as that adage may be, the core of it rings quite true. Think about it:

It can be hard enough understanding and accepting your own thoughts, feelings, words, and actions – let alone somebody else’s. But if loving and accepting yourself – that is, having a strong sense of self-worth – directly influences the health of your intimate relationships, is it possible to learn how to recognize when that influence is negative? Consider the following five clues:

	You don’t speak up for yourself.
This includes both small scale and large scale self-censorship. Mum’s the word…as long as you can avoid conflict and reduce the risk of being rejected, right? (But of course, this is never guaranteed anyway.)
	You don’t set (and stick to) healthy boundaries.
You know what you are and aren’t comfortable with (in everything from sharing finances to sharing secrets), but it’s hard to stay true to you if your sense of self is more concerned about appeasing someone else.
	You hold grudges and resentment.
We tend to judge others most harshly for the things we are judging ourselves about first. So when your partner “pushes your buttons,” you may fail to see it as a growth opportunity if your shaky self-worth prevents you from taking ownership of your feelings.
	You don’t feel comfortable being alone.
While sharing mutual love and support with a partner can be a priority, it doesn’t take away from the importance of being able to genuinely enjoy your own company. “All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone.” -Blaise Pascal, 17th century French mathematician and physicist
	You stay in a relationship even if you know it’s not right for you.
If you don’t feel whole and complete as you are, then you may be more willing to tolerate unsatisfying, unpleasant, or even abusive behavior from another person.
About the Author Jasbina Ahluwalia, Matchmaker & Dating Coach has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West. She is an Indian-American Attorney-turned-Entrepreneur, Relationship Expert, Radio Show Host and Matchmaker/Dating Coach. She is the Founder & President of Intersections Match by Jasbina, the only Premier Matchmaking & Dating Coaching Firm for Indian Singles in the U.S., Canada & the U.K. Jasbina previously practiced law in San Francisco and Chicago. She earned her B.A/M.A. in Philosophy from Vanderbilt University, and JD from the University of Michigan Law School. To learn about Intersections Match by Jasbina, visit www.IntersectionsMatch.com or contact Jasbina by email at info@intersectionsmatch.com

Start Building Your Self-Worth—And Start Building Better Relationships, Too

A healthy sense of self-worth allows you to adopt, celebrate, and take root in the belief that you are inherently deserving of what life has to offer. When it comes to relationships in particular, loving and accepting yourself for who you are prevents you from “needing” validation from a romantic partner (or any other external source, for that matter). Why?

Because you’re already able to validate your worthiness from within—something which,

unlike other people, is actually under your control.

In this way, all the love, acceptance, and approval you receive from your partner become gifts to be enjoyed, not necessities to be depended on (the apparent loss of which can be distressing). In the meantime, your growing sense of self-worth almost immediately helps you free up a lot of emotional and mental energy that can be invested right back into the relationship itself.

So this year, for the sake of you and your loved ones, be kinder to you:

Speak your mind.
Be polite, but be honest.
Instead of judging your emotions, allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling, then simply let it go when you’re done.
Learn to enjoy your own company.
Do things that are personally meaningful.
Help others.
Nourish and move your body.
Let go of what is no longer serving you.
And above all: know that by practicing self-care, you are giving a gift of love to both yourself and your partner.

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What Are the 5 Love Languages®?

Deshvidesh — Thu, 28 Sep 2017 13:34:50 +0000

What Are the 5 Love Languages®?

veryone wants to be loved for who they are. But how can you know if you’re communicating your love in a way that the other person will truly understand and appreciate?
Dr. Gary Chapman, PhD, is the author of The 5 Love Languages®: The Secret to Love That Lasts. In it, he describes 5 key “love languages” and why they are so important:

	Physical Touch
This person feels most loved when he is touched, hugged, kissed, or cuddled with. He likes holding hands, getting a back rub or foot rub, being sexually intimate, or simply having his partner put his or her arm around him.
	Words of Affirmation
This person feels most loved when she is complimented or told, “I love you.” She thrives off loving verbal communication with her partner.
	Quality Time
This person feels most loved when his partner spends time with him, and gives him his or her undivided attention. He likes going out to dinner (without phones present!), going on romantic trips, and simply sitting on the couch together watching a movie.
	Acts of Service
This person feels most loved when she is provided for or offered help, especially if she is feeling stressed out, tired, or overworked. She loves when her spouse runs errands or does chores without her having to ask him or her to do it. Actions speak much louder than words.
	Gifts
This person feels most loved when he is given tokens of appreciation from his partner. He likes getting both small and big gifts that mean something special.

How Understanding the Different Languages of Love Can Improve Your Relationships

Chapman suggests that while every one of us enjoys being showed love in all five love languages, most of us have one or two “primary” languages. This is the way that we like to be shown love the most.

It’s important to realize that you and your partner may not have the same primary love language. Is this a problem? Not necessarily—but it can and often does lie at the heart of miscommunication and frustration between partners.

Here’s why: we tend to show our love most often in the same way that we like to be shown love by our partner. So, if your primary love language is physical touch, it’s most natural for you to show love by kissing and hugging your partner, for example—even if his or her preferred love language is something else, like gifts. This means that your partner may not fully recognize your hugs and kisses as a show of love. This can explain why some exasperated partners can listen in shock while their partners say to them, “I feel like you don’t love me anymore.”

Learning to speak to your partner in his or her preferred love language more often is key for improving the quality of your relationship.

About the Author

Jasbina Ahluwalia, Matchmaker & Dating Coach has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West.

She is an Indian-American Attorney-turned-Entrepreneur, Relationship Expert, Radio Show Host and Matchmaker/Dating Coach. She is the Founder & President of Intersections Match by Jasbina, the only Premier Matchmaking & Dating Coaching Firm for Indian Singles in the U.S., Canada & the U.K. Jasbina previously practiced law in San Francisco and Chicago. She earned her B.A/M.A. in Philosophy from Vanderbilt University, and JD from the University of Michigan Law School.

To learn about Intersections Match by Jasbina, visit www.IntersectionsMatch.com or contact Jasbina by email at info@intersectionsmatch.com

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5 Things to Tell Yourself If He Doesn’t Call

Deshvidesh — Wed, 30 Aug 2017 12:30:05 +0000

5 Things to Tell Yourself If He Doesn’t Call

W	ith something as intimate as dating, it can seem impossible not to take it too personally when a guy doesn’t call you back. But there are things you can say to yourself to help you take it on the chin a little better:

	It’s okay that I’m bummed, but I don’t have to stay that way.
You’re human. On top of that, you’re a woman, so you’re probably pretty in tune with your emotions. Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you’re feeling. Do kind things for yourself in the meantime. Then, when the emotion isn’t serving you any more, just let it go.
	My self-worth is not dependent on my relationship status.
Whether single, dating, or in a long-term committed relationship, you are enough. You are valuable and you are worthy of love. Simple as that. Besides, hitching your sense of self-worth onto a relationship is quite a lot of responsibility for two people who are just trying to get to know each other. Lighten up on yourself- and your dates.
	His opinion of me is valid, but it’s none of my business.
The truth is, he really may not be that into you. And you know something? That’s totally okay. His level of interest (or lack thereof) doesn’t detract from you in any way. It’s simply points to the basic truth that we can’t please everyone. So, instead of pulling your hair out trying to figure out why (or even if) he doesn’t like you, consider the possibility that the guy is just seeing things through his perspective and his personal tastes. You can honor that without putting yourself down in the process.
	I’m not a mind reader.
There could be tons of reasons why this dude isn’t calling you back. Don’t presume you know why. Notice that when you do try to presume, you tend to go with the worst-case scenario type of thoughts (that is, you weren’t “enough” in some capacity, e.g., interesting, pretty, funny, etc.). In other words, don’t believe everything you think, and definitely do not assume to know what other people think, too. Sometimes, you just have to dig your way through the coal before you can find your diamond. If you meet a guy you don’t end up connecting with, consider yourself that much closer to meeting the one you will.

What’s meant for me will not pass me by.

Not connecting with someone can sting. What makes that sting worse is if you allow yourself to believe that your “missed connection” was your last true chance for genuine love.

If you find yourself entertaining such defeatist thoughts, call B.S. on yourself. After all, how many “failures” from your past can you look back on and say that if they hadn’t happened, you wouldn’t be where and who you are today?

About the Author

Jasbina Ahluwalia, Matchmaker & Dating Coach has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West.

To learn about Intersections Match by Jasbina, visit www.IntersectionsMatch.com or contact Jasbina by email at info@intersectionsmatch.com

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5 Conversation Starters You Might Not Have Thought Of

Deshvidesh — Thu, 27 Jul 2017 11:47:46 +0000

5 Conversation Starters You Might
Not Have Thought Of

“	Breaking the ice” can be one of the most daunting steps in meeting a new woman. You can use a cheesy pickup line, but this overused approach has a high risk of falling flat. Instead, try these five unique conversation starters for meeting women:

	The “Thinking Out Loud” Technique
This approach can work very well in grocery stores or other public settings where someone has caught your eye. For example, if you see someone you’re attracted to while in line at the grocery store, make a humorous comment about a headline in one of the tabloid magazines. Or you might muse sarcastically about the strange items in the “impulse buy” section near the cash register. It will seem like you’re just thinking out loud, but a glance and a smile in her direction may very well earn you a laugh and a reply.
	“I’m New Here”
An easy way to talk to someone new at a party or gathering is to say something like, “Hey, I don’t know many people here, so I thought I’d come over and say hello.” A variation for more public settings could be, “Hey there, I’m new to the area and looking to meet cool people. What do you like best about living here?”
	The Door-Opening “Hi”
Try this approach when you are at a club or event where you and the lovely lady will be in attendance for awhile. Walk by her and simply but directly say “Hi” while smiling warmly and making eye contact – then keep walking to show her you had no agenda but to make a connection. This simple conversation starter can set the stage for future interactions during the event.
	Create Customized Conversation Starters
This approach allows you to be better prepared to talk to interesting ladies in the settings you’re most likely to be in. Think about the top three places you tend to meet women; some examples might be at the gym, in clubs/bars or at the park while walking your dog. Now develop 5 to 10 relevant, customized conversation starters specific to each situation. Once you do, you’ll have at least 15 new pre-made ways to break the ice in the settings you’re most often in.
Meeting new women can seem daunting, but the right approach can help to break the ice and get the conversation flowing. Use these five unique approaches to increase the odds of connecting with your ideal partner.


	Honesty and Authenticity
Some guys get so wrapped up trying to think up clever new pickup lines that they lose sight of one of the most valuable and effective approaches: being honest and authentic. Come up with a confident way to express the truth: “Hey, I couldn’t help but notice you and just had to come up and say hello” – or, “You caught my eye, so I just had to meet you.” At the very least, you’ll make her day; and who knows – maybe she’d been trying to work up the courage to get your attention as well?

About the Author

Jasbina Ahluwalia, Matchmaker & Dating Coach has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West.

To learn about Intersections Match by Jasbina, visit www.IntersectionsMatch.com or contact Jasbina by email at info@intersectionsmatch.com

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5 Signs Your New Relationship Has Long-Term Potential

Deshvidesh — Tue, 30 May 2017 12:48:20 +0000

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by Jasbina Ahluwalia, Intersections Match

5 Signs Your New Relationship Has Long-Term Potential

Have you finally met “The One?” Review this checklist for signs that your budding romance could be the real thing.

	Reliable and Dependable
Has your new partner kept their word during the time you’ve known them? Have they been dependable? Do they show the signs of being trustworthy, or have there been red flags that say otherwise? Trust and reliability are foundational to a long-term commitment.
	You Have Around Equal “Mate Value”
Evolutionary psychology says the following three areas are key considerations when looking for a mate: personal warmth, physical attractiveness and financial status. One person may be a 7 in personal warmth, an 8 in attractiveness and a 3 in financial status, while the other is a 6, 4 and 9. While there can be big differences in certain categories, if you both average around the same overall, your relationship has a better chance than if your “mate values” are vastly different.


	Genuine Warmth Towards People
In addition to how your partner treats you, take notice of how they treat others. What is their relationship with their parents, siblings and other family members? How do they treat their friends? How do they treat wait staff and other service people when you are out with them? Even if they initially treat you well, if they are rude, unkind or dismissive toward others, this may be a red flag that could indicate how they might treat you down the road.

About the Author

Jasbina Ahluwalia, Matchmaker & Dating Coach has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West.

To learn about Intersections Match by Jasbina, visit www.IntersectionsMatch.com or contact Jasbina by email at info@intersectionsmatch.com

	You Like Each Others’ Most “Extreme” Characteristics
Is your new love extremely shy, overly gregarious, staunchly political, an all-raw vegan juice diet purist, or extreme in some other way? Are you? These types of pronounced traits could be deal-breakers in some relationships; however, if you find each others’ most extreme qualities genuinely charming, this could be a sign that you were meant for each other.
	The Potential for True Love
What do you see and feel in the eyes of your partner when they look at you? Genuine love has an undeniable quality. If you feel that from your partner – and you feel this for them – then the potential for a truly great romance is there.
Not all relationships are meant to go the distance. However, if your new love interest shows many of the signs listed here, it’s quite possible that you’ve met your match.

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4 Tips for the Smart and Successful Woman Looking for Love

Deshvidesh — Mon, 06 Mar 2017 11:29:04 +0000

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by Jasbina Ahluwalia, Intersections Match

4 Tips for the Smart and Successful Woman Looking for Love

Careers can be rich in meaning and fulfillment. But if career-driven lifestyles don’t afford the time and energy required to build a truly fulfilling romantic relationship, they can also be lacking in love. If you’re ready to connect with a partner, these quick tips can guide you into the arms of a loving companion, without compromising what’s genuinely important to you.


	Measure your time commitment
Where can you free up time to schedule a date night? Like any goal, you’ll need to start with a plan. Evaluate your current lifestyle and habits. Take into consideration any travel, late hours and even personal health habits when carving out your time. Be honest with yourself. This way, you can build intimacy with another without sacrificing what matters most to you.


	Write down your non-negotiables
Are there a few traits in your potential partner that you cannot live without? Narrow in on characteristics you enjoy the most in a companion and number them by importance. Writing out these features will give you more flexibility to say no to someone who doesn’t quite meet your standards. It’s equally important to know what you won’t put up with so that you can avoid settling into a relationship ‘just because.’


	Recognize the role you play
While filling in the lines of your ideal companion, take note of the kind of partner you will be. Remove the external pressures of society as well as the opinions of those around you and focus on your own values. Be aware of your level of willingness to accept the intimacy relationships bring along. Sharing your life with someone else is a big commitment and the more conscious you are of your intentions, the smoother this transition can be.
	Get comfortable saying Yes
With the plethora of apps and online dating sites, sometimes one of the most impactful things for singles to do is just say ‘yes’ to an invitation in real life. You will likely need to break out of your daily norm to experience new people, and the best way to do that is having the willingness to put yourself in unfamiliar situations. Love shouldn’t be a sacrifice of fulfillment. Relationships are meant to enhance your lifestyle, not hinder it. Enjoy the richness that comes with opening your heart to love. You can successfully do this without losing yourself in the process.

About the Author

Jasbina Ahluwalia, Matchmaker & Dating Coach has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West.

To learn about Intersections Match by Jasbina, visit www.IntersectionsMatch.com or contact Jasbina by email at info@intersectionsmatch.com.

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5 Things You’re Unlikely to Discover on a First Date

Deshvidesh — Mon, 02 Jan 2017 10:52:31 +0000

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by Jasbina Ahluwalia, Intersections Match

5 Things You’re Unlikely to Discover on a First Date

Before you pass on a second date with a man, consider these five things you are unlikely to discover about a potential partner on a first date.


	How he interacts with you when he’s not nervous.
Regardless of how he seems on your first date, it is likely he is nervous about the prospect of meeting you face-to-face. He wants to make a favorable first impression without seeming arrogant. He wants to leave the door open for a second date without seeming desperate. These factors and others may be received differently than they were intended. On a second date, the nerves are calmed and you are both able to be yourself.


	How he treats the most important people in his life.
It is impossible to see how he interacts with his parents, his friends, his siblings, or his coworkers on a first date. The way he treats those he is closest to will reveal a lot about how he will treat you in the long run.


	Details about his past relationships.
Along the same lines, a first date is not the place to discover what happened in his previous relationships. If he is divorced, he is unlikely to reveal on a first date why the relationship ended. If he has children, he is unlikely to talk about their mother on a first date. Giving him the benefit of the doubt about his past relationship on the first date can help him feel comfortable enough to open up in subsequent interactions. Then you can decide whether to continue seeing him based on all of the necessary information.
	How his job affects his personal life.
Professional success often bleeds into a person’s personal life. If he is successful at what he does for a living, but seems distant or inattentive, he may have a project due at work or a work trip coming up. Give him a chance to separate the two parts of his life before writing him off as “disinterested” or “a workaholic.”

	How much time he is willing to invest in getting to know you.
Even if you have been texting or talking on the phone before, think of a first date as a beginning rather than a make-or-break point. Men who treat your interactions after that initial meeting as a priority rather than an obligation tend to make great friends, if not partners. Give him another chance to make an impression.

About the Author

Jasbina Ahluwalia, Matchmaker & Dating Coach has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West.

To learn about Intersections Match by Jasbina, visit www.IntersectionsMatch.com or contact Jasbina by email at info@intersectionsmatch.com.

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Green-lighting a Guy – 5 Reasons Smiling’s Just Not Enough

Deshvidesh — Sat, 03 Sep 2016 12:03:07 +0000

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by Jasbina Ahluwalia, Intersections Match

Green-lighting a Guy – 5 Reasons Smiling’s Just Not Enough

We are often told to smile — for the camera, for a date, and for a job interview. Yet how important is this element of body language? According to numerous research studies, plenty. Researchers tracked the lives of women who displayed the best smiles in yearbook photos and compared them to ladies with less stellar grins to see how life fared after the camera clicked. Turns out that the women who smiled more wound up with happier marriages, fewer setbacks, and a greater satisfaction in life.

Yet for all the evidence that points to the significance of the smile, is it really enough to snag (and keep) a date? Studies suggest that it takes more for a man to know you’re interested than a mere smile. Since many men avoid rejection at all costs, the result is that it takes more than your pearly whites to secure a date. Here’s why:

1. Men tend to need more than mere hints

Sure, to you a smile may convey obvious interest. However, to a man, your smile may make him think you’re just being polite. Remember, the quickest distance between two points is a straight line. Coming out and letting him know you’re interested is the only surefire way to ensure that he “gets it.”

2. Other ways come across more clear

According to the book Are You Normal About Sex, Love, and Relationships?, 51 percent of people state that flattery is the best way to indicate interest in another person. Meanwhile, 25 percent of singles report that touching the other person is an effective way to flirt. These signals come across much more clearly than a smile.

3. Fear makes us inactive

When polled, 40 percent of men acknowledge that they are “scared” when first interacting with a potential date, according to a commonly cited statistic from Neil Clark Warren. This is likely one of the reasons the majority of people who report being “single” haven’t gone on a date for at least two years. The fear of rejection holds people back, underscoring the importance of making your interest unambiguously clear.

4. Being confidently bold makes women stand out

A woman who unambiguously green-lights a man sets herself apart from the crowd. Her confidence will undoubtedly impress him. While women frequently assume the passive role, a woman who knows what she wants and goes after it conveys a unique attitude that many men find attractive.

5. Clarity conveys success

Being direct and going after what you want in life is imperative to success in any aspect of life. Many men want a woman who will be successful, both in and out of the home.

While flashing a flirtatious smile is certainly helpful to scoring a date, it shouldn’t be seen as an obvious clue. Rather than waiting for a man to approach, it may be time to send stronger signals and directly express your interest.

About the Author

Jasbina Ahluwalia,
Matchmaker & Dating Coach has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West.

To learn about Intersections Match by Jasbina, visit www.IntersectionsMatch.com or contact Jasbina by email at info@intersectionsmatch.com.

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5 Ways Men Can Get Over Fear of Rejection

Deshvidesh — Tue, 05 Jul 2016 12:27:47 +0000

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by Jasbina Ahluwalia, Intersections Match

No one likes feeling rejected by another person, it creates feelings of anxiety and sadness within all of us. For men, rejection can be even worse, affecting how they feel about themselves as men and even questioning their self-confidence. Therefore, many times men refuse to approach a woman they find attractive or want to get to know. This is unfortunate, since they may be missing out on a wonderful opportunity to create a loving and fulfilling relationship. That being said, there are ways men can mitigate this fear of rejection.

1. Tell yourself: It’s not you, it’s her

She may not be interested in getting to know you for a variety of reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you. For instance: she’s already seeing someone, not interested in dating anyone or maybe she just had a horrible day at work. Whatever the reason, her turning down your attempt at flirting may have very little to do with you personally.

2. Fear is far worse than reality

When you see a woman that you may be interested in dating, immediately approach her. If you wait too long, fear will set in and you find all kind of excuses not to approach that potential date.

3. Rejection happens to every man

You are not alone. Every man who has attempted flirting has been rejected at some point. It does not matter how handsome, wealthy or witty he may be. The more you put yourself out there, the easier it can get.

4. Don’t base your self-worth on others’ perception

As much as rejection can hurt, keep in mind that this person doesn’t know the real you. When a woman is approached by a man, if she is interested in dating him she has to make a snap decision based on very little information.

5. Learn to dread regret instead of rejection

A powerful practice to adopt is to consider the risk of regret more so than the risk of rejection. Think to yourself: how much will I regret not talking to her later? We lose every shot we don’t take; and we tend to regret the actions we don’t take more so than those we do. More than likely, you will realize that you will regret your inaction…use this. Don’t allow the fear of rejection to paralyze you. Have faith that you’re worth getting to know.

About the Author

Jasbina Ahluwalia,
Matchmaker & Dating Coach has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West.

To learn about Intersections Match by Jasbina, visit www.IntersectionsMatch.com or contact Jasbina by email at info@intersectionsmatch.com.

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5 Tips for Flirting With Confidence

Deshvidesh — Wed, 04 May 2016 11:46:22 +0000

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by Jasbina Ahluwalia, Intersections Match

Striking a balance between green-lighting guys in a confident manner, and not pushing them away by coming off too strong, can be an effective way to approach flirting.

1. Make Eye Contact and Smile

According to a study done at Cornell University, maintaining eye contact with someone creates a strong sense of connection on a subconscious level.

Use this to your advantage by looking at him when talking. Be sure to keep a smile on your face as well, as 96 percent of people believe that having a nice smile makes someone more attractive to the opposite sex.

2. Talk to Him Regularly

Show him you are interested by maintaining communication with him regularly. While initiating communication multiple times a day is likely to seem obsessive, too little communication might signify you just see him as a friend.

Find interesting topics of conversation that allow you to engage on a deeper level and learn more about each other.

3. Show Him You’re a Happy Person

Men care about the happiness of the women in their lives; and also like to feel they can win with you. When a man who has an interest in you perceives you as a happy person, he feels set up for success. Don’t hold back from laughing at his jokes, and throwing in a few of your own to lighten the mood. Playful, fun teasing can also serve you well. Giving genuine compliments also adds to a positive vibe.

4. Show Him You’re Comfortable in Your Own Skin

Dressing in a skin tight mini skirt and tube top might send the wrong message, but a tastefully cut neckline and well-fitting jeans can help him appreciate your comfort with your body. Always make sure you feel beautiful when around him, whether that means doing your hair, wearing makeup (most men prefer natural-looking); or just embracing your body with what you choose to wear.

5. Touch Him

Human beings are wired to respond to touch, so it only makes sense to throw this into your flirting repertoire. Pat his arm when he says something funny or give him a comforting hug if he’s having a rough day. Keep your body language open and friendly to silently invite him to touch you back.

About the Author

Jasbina Ahluwalia, Matchmaker & Dating Coach has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West.

To learn about Intersections Match by Jasbina, visit – www.IntersectionsMatch.com. Send your relationship questions to info@deshvidesh.com

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