Introduction

A Hindu wedding according to the Vedas is not merely a social contract—it is considered a sacred spiritual union (Saṁskāra). Marriage is one of the sixteen major sacraments (Ṣoḍaśa Saṁskāras) in Hindu life.

The Sacredness of Marriage

In the Vedic tradition, marriage is performed in the presence of Agni, the sacred fire. who acts as the divine witness. The couple takes vows based on Vedic mantras. committing to a life guided by the four fundamental goals of human life, known as the

Purushārthas (पुरुषार्थ):

• Dharma – righteous living and moral duty
• Artha – material prosperity and livelihood
• Kāma – emotional and sensory fulfillment
• Mksa—spiritual liberation

The core wedding rituals described in the Vedas appear primarily in the Rigveda (Maṇḍala 10, Sūkta 85), known as the Vivāha Sūkta.

1. Vivāha as a Sacred Saṁskāra
   In Vedic philosophy, marriage is a partnership in dharma.
   The bride and groom become gṛhasthas (householders) and together fulfill

• Performing yajña (sacred rituals)
• Practicing Dharma
• Raising children
• Serving society
• Continuing the family lineageThe Gṛhastha Āśrama (householder stage) is considered the pillar of society, because

2. Role of Agni (Sacred Fire)The most important witness in a Vedic wedding is Agni. Agni represents:

• Purity
• Divine presence
• Transformation
• TruthThe couple makes their vows before the sacred fire, signifying that their promises are

3. 

   The tradition of getting married in the Hindu religion

   Main Vedic Wedding Rituals
   Although regional customs vary, the core Vedic steps usually include the following:Kanyādāna (Giving Away the Bride)The bride’s father formally offers his daughter to the groom. Meaning:
   The father entrusts the groom with the care and partnership of his daughter, and it symbolizes blessings and the transfer of responsibility.Pāṇigrahaṇa (Holding the Hand)
   The groom holds the bride’s hand while reciting a Vedic mantra from the Rigveda (10.85.36):
   “I take your hand for happiness, so that together we may live to old age in prosperity.”
   This mantra signifies the couple accepts each other as lifelong partners.Agni Pradakṣiṇā (Circling the Sacred Fire) – Maṅgala Pherās
   In many Gujarati and North Indian Hindu wedding traditions, the couple takes four Maṅgala Pherās around the sacred fire, which is the divine witness, Agni.Meaningful symbolism is observed during these rounds:

• In the first three phases, the husband leads.
• In the fourth era, the wife leads.This does not indicate superiority or dominance. Instead, it reflects the balance of responsibilities in married life.First Three Pheras—Husband Leads
  The first three rounds correspond to the first three Purushārthas:

1. Dharma—righteous duty: Uphold dharma in the household
2. Artha—livelihood and prosperity: Work for material stability prosperity
3. Kāma—love and fulfillment: Work for material stability and prosperityThe deeper meaning is responsibility and commitment, not authority.Fourth Phera—Wife Leads
   The fourth round represents Mokṣa, the highest spiritual goal—liberation and selfrealization.
   In this round, the bride leads and the groom follows.This symbolizes that

• The wife becomes the spiritual guide of the home
• The nurturing principle leads toward spiritual growth
• The household moves toward higher values and inner realizationIn traditional Hindu thought, the wife is often called Gṛha Lakṣmī—the auspicious spiritual energy in the home.Here, the wife also reminds the husband of the ultimate goal of life: Mokṣa.

• Material life requires effort and responsibility.
• Spiritual life requires wisdom, compassion, and inner strength.The Vedic tradition honors the spiritual power of the feminine principle.In many scriptures, the wife is called:
  “Saha-dharma-chāriṇī” the one who walks together in dharma.
  In Simple Words: Together, they promise to walk through life side by side.

The Saptapadi – The Seven Sacred Steps

The Saptapadi (seven steps) is the most sacred part of the Hindu marriage ceremony.

After the seventh step, the couple is considered o􀆯icially married.

The Seven Vows

• Step 1 – Nourishment: “Let us take the first step for nourishment.”
  Together we will provide food and support our household.
• Step 2 – Strength: “Let us take the second step for strength.”
  We will grow stronger physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
• Step 3 – Prosperity: “Let us take the third step for prosperity.”
  We will earn wealth honestly and share it responsibly.
• Step 4 – Happiness: “Let us take the fourth step for happiness.”
  We will support each other in joy and sorrow.
• Step 5 – Children: “Let us take the fifth step for progeny.”
  We will raise virtuous children.
• Step 6 – Health and Longevity: “Let us take the sixth step for long life.”
  We will live healthy and peaceful lives together.
• Step 7 – Friendship: “Let us take the seventh step for friendship.”
  Now we become lifelong companions and partners.

In Vedic philosophy, the final vow—friendship—is considered the most important. In the Vedic tradition, marriage is understood as a sacred partnership in which two individuals walk together on the path of dharma and spiritual growth. Thus, marriage becomes a shared spiritual journey.

The Essence of Vedic Marriage

A Vedic marriage is a sacred union witnessed by Agni, grounded in Vedic mantras from the Rigveda, in which two individuals take sacred vows and promise to walk together in dharma, harmony, and spiritual growth.

Jai Shree Krishna

About the Author 

Samir (Sam) Desai was with Motorola for more than 34 years. He served as Sr. Vice President & General Manager for iDEN® Networks, managing over six billion dollars’ worth of business.

He has a MS in electrical engineering from the Illinois Institute of Technology, Chicago. He also holds an MBA from Loyola University, Chicago. He is known as a management guru who has applied principles from the Bhagavad Gita in the corporate world.

After retiring from Motorola, Sam Desai served as an independent consultant for the Board of Directors of three companies: Larsen & Toubro Infotech, Larsen & Toubro Technology Services, and Welch Allyn.

In many Indian weddings today, age-old rituals are finding joyful new expressions. One beautiful example is the blending of the traditional Pithi ceremony with the playful spirit of Holi, the festival of colors. The result is a vibrant celebration filled with laughter, color, and heartfelt blessings that brings families together in unforgettable ways.

The Pithi ceremony is a pre-wedding ritual widely observed across North India and in many Indian families around the world. It is usually held one or two days before the wedding and involves applying a paste made from turmeric, sandalwood, herbs, and other fragrant ingredients to the bride and groom. This yellow paste, known as haldi or pithi, is believed to purify, beautify, and bless the couple as they prepare for married life.

Traditionally, the Pithi ceremony is serene and symbolic. Relatives and close friends gather around the bride or groom’s seat, one by one applying the turmeric paste to their face, arms, and feet. The atmosphere is warm and intimate, filled with devotional songs, family stories, and blessings passed down from elders.

In recent years, many couples have added a festive twist by introducing Holi colors and playful fun into the Pithi ceremony. This fusion honors both cultural heritage and youthful joy and brings a splash of color literally and metaphorically to wedding celebrations.

Instead of just applying turmeric paste, friends and cousins now bring vibrant gulal powders, the bright pinks, greens, blues, and oranges of Holi, to smother the bride and groom. Music is turned up, laughter fills the air, and everyone playfully tosses colors at each other. These moments are often captured in candid photos and videos, creating memories that feel both traditional and refreshingly fun.

This colorful variation resonates especially with young couples and families who want their wedding rituals to reflect both deep cultural roots and modern spirit. It brings together guests of all ages as grandparents, parents, and cousins join in the joyful chaos of color-tossing and dancing. For many, it feels like celebrating two cherished occasions, a wedding and the essence of Holi, merged into one.

The symbolism deepens through this blend of Pithi and Holi. Turmeric, with its golden hue, represents purity and prosperity. Holi colors, with their brilliant spectrum, signify joy, new beginnings, and the vibrant journey of married life. Together, they create an atmosphere of love, laughter, and optimism as the couple steps into a new chapter.

Besides the merriment, families often serve special festive foods during this ceremony. Traditional snacks, sweets, and cool beverages help balance the warm climate and add to the communal feeling of celebration. Some couples even organize a theme for the Pithi, from floral decor to music playlists, to make it feel unique and personalized.

While not all Indian weddings include this colorful variation, its popularity is growing with couples who cherish both heritage and happiness. For them, mixing the joyful exuberance of Holi with the sacred blessings of the Pithi ceremony becomes a meaningful way to honor family traditions while celebrating love in full color.

In the end, this fusion of rituals is not just about color on clothes or faces. It is about bringing people together, celebrating unity and joy, and creating magic in moments that last a lifetime.

About the Author
Tanya Narayan, a Senior Journalist at Desh-Videsh Media Group, brings stories to life with deep insight and on-the-ground reporting. With a passion for uncovering cultural and human narratives, she explores India’s most significant events and traditions.

Grah Shanti: A First Step to Happiness

People often say that matches are made in heaven, so it is no surprise that many weddings begin with an auspicious step to placate the heavenly bodies. The Grah Shanti is often one of the first rituals to take place in an Indian wedding. Learn more about the significance of the Grah Shanti as well some tips to keep in mind.

What is the Grah Shanti pooja?

Indian customs call for various religious rituals to  take place for different occasions. The Grah Shanti pooja is performed before the wedding rituals take place to  receive the blessings of the ‘Grah,’ also known as the nine planets. Indians, from the ancient days, believe that the nine planets control the lives and destiny of people. This is why before two people tie the knot, acknowledging the planets or ‘Navagraha’ becomes quite essential to bring happiness and prosperity in the lives of the couple and the families. For Hindus, this pooja  is usually performed two to three days before the wedding to ensure an auspicious start to the festivities. Hindus believe that this Grah Shanti pooja is not just about the planets, but also a way to invite God and ancestors to the wedding. Lord Ganesha is invoked at the beginning of the ceremony to remove all obstacles not only from the entire wedding ceremony, but also from the bride and groom’s married life.

Reasons to Perform a Grah Shanti Pooja

Hindus believe that the Grah Shanti pooja can be beneficial for the couple and the families if they conduct the ceremony in a very ritualistic way. Many believe performing the Grah Shanti puja before the wedding ensures the couple and families will be blessed. Some reasons families perform this pooja include:

• The Grah Shanti pooja washes away all negative energies of the people involved in the ritual ceremony.
• The pooja brings health and wealth to the families of the bride and the bridegroom.
• Many believe the ritual will protect the couple and families from the evil eye and reduce future hardships.
• This ritual also assures us that the negative impact of either couple’s planet will not affect the other.

Tips for a Blessed Grah Shanti

Traditionally during the Grah Shanti pooja, grooms wear comfortable clothing such as kurtas pyjama, sherwanis, and dhotis while brides wear saris or salwar kameez/churidhar.  In keeping with ritual traditions, the pooja is performed while sitting on the floor so comfort is important.   Couples should avoid black and white as these colors are considered ominous for any kind of religious occasion. 

Above all, the commitment from both families of the couple must be shown while worshipping. The Grah Shanti Pooja is an opportunity to bring all your relatives under one roof.   You will get the chance to be with family, relax, and make some lovely memories with them. ,, After all, marriage does not mean the union of two souls; instead, it is a union of two families whose happiness relies significantly on you. Sostart making preparations immediately and be fortunate with the blessings of Almighty.

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A wedding that is distinctive and memorable is a wish many brides make for this important life event. Multi-faceted hues and dimensions of color are sure to leave an imprint, and moreover, are a characteristic trait of South Asian weddings.

Weddings have always been affairs to remember, with everyone involved cherishing different memories. Brides spend a good bit of time coordinating colors – from the bride and groom’s clothing to the decorations for each event, invitations, and so much more. Whether the color of the flowers or of the bridal lehnga, color is an important detail for each and every event of the wedding.

Some seasons feature bolder colors than others, but even winter weddings can dazzle with a range of festive colors. Consider these color combinations to ensure your wedding events leave an impression on your guests!

Cobalt Blue for a Sophisticated Reception

The reception is a time to celebrate and provide the couple and guests an opportunity to bring all the festivities to a close. Blue is often a symbol of spirituality, peace, and youth. With their whole lives ahead of them, the youthful color is the perfect choice for a couple to begin their new journey together. Beautiful hues of cobalt blue are perfect for winter weddings. With many choices for complementary colors, couples can create their own unique color combinations with shades of blue for a personal touch.

Colors play an important role in Indian weddings, and with so many pre-wedding events, brides and grooms can truly let their personality shine with their preferences. A winter wedding is the perfect time to showcase color and breathe life into an otherwise underrated season.

Color Trends for Winter Wedding Events

Rose Pink and White for an Elegant Engagement

Emerald Green for a Festive Mehndi

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Golden Yellow for an Auspicious Haldi/Pithi

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Claret Red for a Winter Wedding

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Weddings are celebrated with great fervor around the world and across cultures. What makes them special though are the diverse rituals and traditions that are truly fascinating. In Islam, marriage is seen as a righteous act, a social commitment, and an act of devotion towards significant other. Here is a glimpse into the ceremonial rituals that make the wedding an elegant and stylish affair.

Pre-Wedding Rituals

The most exciting part of a fulfilling marital bliss begins with some significant rituals before the wedding day arrives.

Salat-ul-Ishtikara

When preparing married, this prayer is performed keeping the future partner in mind to seek blessings and steer clear of doubts. It places the utmost trust in Allah’s will. An Imam performs this ritual to officially announce the wedding.

Imam Zamin

The groom’s mother visits the house of the bride and ties a silver or gold coin wrapped in silk cloth on the bride’s hand. This ritual is performed to ward off any evil and ensures the safety of the bride.

Mangni

Mangni, widely known as the engagement function, is the coming together of families, relatives, and friends. They bear witness to the ring ceremony of betrothal, exchange gifts, and shower blessings on the duo.

Manjha

Colloquially known as the Haldi ceremony, a blend of turmeric, sandalwood, and rose water is applied to the bride and groom in their respective homes. This is followed by a ritual bath that doesn’t allow them to leave the house before the wedding.

Rasm-e-Heena (Mehndi)

Henna (mehndi) designs are applied to the hands and feet of the bride. This ceremonial art is very detailed and intricate in its pattern. The darker the mehndi color, the stronger and loving the bond is said to be. Traditionally the groom’s name is hidden in the designs on the bride’s limbs for him to find on the wedding night.

Sanchaq

The groom’s male friends and family members bring with them precious gifts, scrumptious sweets, and ornamental jewelry accompanying the beautiful bridal outfit. This is the last performing pre-wedding ritual to strengthen, support, and seal the wedding.

Wedding Attire

Grooms are often given the choice to wear either Kurta Pyjama, Sherwani, or formals like a suit, tuxedo, etc., whereas, for brides, it is Salwar Kameez or Sharara. The traditionally designed nose pin and Jhoomar are the emblems of Muslim brides.

Wedding Day Rituals

The much-awaited day is full of meaningful traditions and special moments.

Baraat

The groom, ready and excited for what awaits, is accompanied by all guests, and a grand procession follows from his home to the bride’s door.

Welcome

At his arrival, he receives a warm welcome. As the members escort him to the wedding venue, he is offered Sharbat (drink), while flowers and ‘ittar’ are sprayed along the way.

Nikaah

The Maulvi performs the ritual and recites a prayer from the Quran while the groom’s family offers the bride ‘Mehr’ to seek her consent for marriage.

During Ijab-e-Qubool, both groom and bride were asked separately their will to marry each other by saying ‘Qubool Hai,’ three times.

As decreed by the Quran, Nikah Nama is signed followed by Khutba, wherein the Maulvi recites what we know as marriage vows.

Arsi Mushraf 

A mirror is placed between the newly-wed along with the Holy Quran. Everyone is tickled pink when the groom and bride lay eyes on each other for the first time in their reflection.

Post Wedding Rituals

Festive rituals continue even after the wedding ceremony.

Rukhsat

The Rukhsat is when the bride bids farewell to her family and is welcomed into her new home by the groom’s mother. The Quran is placed above the bride’s head and she begins her role as a daughter-in-law with its blessings.

Walimah

Similar to the reception, the grand ceremony known as Walimah offers abundant feasts and delicacies such as Biryani, Korma and more while the bride and groom are seated atop a raised platform.

Chauthi

Chauthi is the fourth day after the wedding when the husband takes his wife to visit her family. There they are treated with delicacies, and this concludes full-fledged wedding celebrations.

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Each Hindu wedding ritual has religious, spiritual, and most importantly, practical message or meaning. When a Hindu Pandit recites the Vedic Mantra during wedding rituals, many of us do not understand the actual meaning or significance. When you break down the meaning or significance of each ritual, one finds they are words to live by in your married life. The first essential ritual in Hindu weddings is the Mangal Pheras (Agni-pari?ayana) or the walk around the sacred agni God or fire. Some people call this ritual Sapta phera (Seven rounds), but there is no mention in the Hindu Scriptures of the seven rounds (sapta phera). It has become popular in North Indian marriages due to the influence of Bollywood! There seems to have been some confusion between the seven steps and seven rounds. Some people believe Mangal Pheras and Saptapadi to be the same but they are not. Mangal Pheras involve taking four rounds around fire. Each Phera represents one of four promises. The first one represents Dharma, to pursue life’s religious and moral duty, the second represents Artha, to pursue prosperity, the third represents Kama, to pursue earthly pleasures, and the fourth represents Moksha, to pursue spiritual salvation. The groom leads the first three Pheras around the fire, and the bride leads the groom the final round to show her devotion and love towards her husband. The second most important ritual in Hindu weddings is the saptapadi. These are the seven steps taken together by the bride and groom to signify their togetherness for each step in their journey of life.

The original text of the saptapadi was written in our Hindu scripture. For many of us, it can be too complicated to understand practical meaning. One Hindu Scripture and English Scholar (whose name is unknown) put these slokas of saptapadi in a romantic way as follows:

Walk with me four steps and three, I seek thy hand;
let me not break from thee, nor thou from me.
Let us swear in joy and strength,
One in thought and deed, one within.
Heaven and earth are me and thee,
Seed am I for thee to bloom.
Word and mind are thee and me
Be my friend and make me groom
Come my mate and blend with me,
For sons and weal, O cheerful girl!

What a beautiful message! Addressing the bride as ‘Mate,’ the man describes the nature of the bond that shall grow between him and her and that the journey is exciting. These mantras reveal how the relationship between man and woman should materialize, like heaven and earth, music and hymn, mind and word.

In the next Wedding Resources issue, I will talk about the next two important rituals in the Hindu Weddings.

About Raj Shah

A software engineer by profession, Indian culture enthusiast, ardent promoter of Hinduism, and a cancer survivor, Raj Shah is a managing editor of Desh-Videsh Magazine and co-founder of Desh Videsh Media Group. Promoting the rich culture and heritage of India and Hinduism has been his motto ever since he arrived in the US. He has been instrumental in starting and promoting several community organizations such as the Indian Religious and Cultural Center and Hindu University of America South Florida Chapter. He serves as a chairman of Board of International Hindu University. Raj has written two books titled Chronology of Hinduism and Understanding Hinduism. He has also written six children books, We love Diwali, Holi Hai, The Complete Ramayan in 100 Tweets, The Mahabharat in 100 Tweets, Coloring and Understanding Hindu Symbols and Welcome to my beautiful Mandir.

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Besides the religious meaning behind the significant seven steps also called Saptapadi, there is also a mathematical rationale on performing the seven rounds circling the fire. A circle is 360 degrees and all numbers between 1 and 9 divide into 360 except the number 7. It becomes a non-terminating number, hence symbolizing the marriage as indivisible.

The ends of their garments -the bridegroom’s khes and one end of sari of the bride – are tied together by the Panditji signifying the marriage knot. Then both shall stand facing the north. The bridegroom places his right hand upon the right shoulder of the bride. They take the first step in the northeasterly direction.

In taking these seven steps, the right foot shall always lead and the left foot be brought forward in line. Uncooked grains of rice (about a small handful) are placed in a line at equal distance in seven places. The bride and the groom take seven steps together, step ping upon the first mound of rice with the right foot as the priest recites a mantra. They then step upon the second mount of rice with the right foot as the priest recites a mantra.

The bridegroom says: Having completed the seven steps, be thou my life long companion. Mayst thou be my associate and helper in successful performance of the duties that now devolve upon me as a householder. May we be blessed with many children who may live the full duration of human life!

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After the completion of the seven steps ceremony, the couple (with knots tied to each other) take their seats. The Hindu wife now takes her rightful place on the left side of her Hindu husband as the marriage has now been religiously solemnized in its entirety. Now the couple is deemed husband and wife. The husband garlands the wife, and she in turn garlands her husband. Using Fresh Flowers in Hindu Wedding has very special Significant

May the first step lead to food that is both nourishing and pure.

May the second step lead to strength (at the physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual levels).

May the third step lead to prosperity.

May the fourth step lead to all round happiness.

May the fifth step lead to progeny (noble and virtuous children).

May the sixth step lead to long life.

May the seventh step lead to bondage (through harmony, understanding).

One such very important and integral component of a typical Hindu marriage is Saptapadi. It is an activity that is undertaken by the bride and the groom in front of fire, where the couple goes around the sacred fire seven times while reciting certain significant vows or invocations (one made by the bride and another made by the groom) with each circumambulation. Each of these movements is also known as phera and accordingly, Saptapadi is often referred to as Saat Phera in Hindi. Fire or Agni is considered highly sacred in the Hindu religion, and as such, vows taken in front of Agni are considered to be unbreakable. The God of fire, Agnideva, is considered to be a witness to the solemnisation of the marriage as well as a representative of the Supreme Being to provide His blessings to the newlyweds.

A Hindu marriage comprises of several meaningful rituals with varying degrees of significance. The rituals convey the values which should be followed after marriage to lead to a happy married life. The ritual of Saptapadi symbolizes the journey of life, which the couple should travel together hand in hand. They should be with each other through thick and thin. The husband accepts his wife as a token of good fortune and good omen to start their life together. The groom vows to take care, consult, and protect his bride at all times. While the groom takes the bride’s hand and moves around the fire together seven times, the priest chants mantras that include accepting the responsibilities of loyalty, love, mutual respect, understanding and procreation for as long as they live. The significance of seven times lies in the fact that according to Hindu belief, if two people walk seven steps together then they remains together for life long. The significance of vows taken in each of the seven steps are of paramount importance and highly relevant for a successful married life of the couple.

In the first set of vows taken during the first step, the couple invokes the Gods for a plentitude of pure and nourishing food and a life that is noble and respectful. The groom promises to provide for the food, welfare and happiness of his wife and children, while the bride promises to discharge all given responsibilities for the welfare of the family.

With the second step , the couple prays to the Gods to give them both mental and physical strength and a healthy life free from ailments. The groom requests the bride to fill his heart with strength and courage so as to protect the family. The bride agrees to comply, while demanding undivided attention and love as his wife.

During the third step, the Gods are invoked for blessing the couple with spiritual strength in order to successfully perform spiritual duties. The groom expresses hope that by their mutual association, their wealth and prosperity will grow and he will look upon all women as sisters. The bride promises to love her husband with single-minded devotion and treat all other men as brothers.

The fourth step is taken to ensure the attainment of happiness and harmony through mutual love and trust and a long joyous life together. The groom thanks the bride for bringing auspiciousness and sacredness into his life, while the bride promises to serve and please the husband in any manner that pleases him.

The fifth set of vows are taken to pray for the welfare of all living entities in the entire universe and for begetting noble children. Here, the groom expresses optimism for future enrichment of life and prays for the long life and prosperity of all near and dear ones. The bride, on the other hand, promises to share both the joy and sorrow of the husband at all times.

In the sixth step, the couple prays for bountiful seasons and seeks that they may go through these seasons together, just as they would share their joys and sorrows. The sixth step is taken for self-control and longevity. The groom places hope that the wife would fill his heart with joy and peace from time to time; while the bride promises to participate with the husband in all acts of righteousness, in material prosperity and in every form of enjoyment and divine acts.

Finally, with the last and the seventh step, they pray for a life of understanding, loyalty, unity and companionship not only for themselves, but also for the peace of the Universe. The seventh step is taken by invoking the prayer and sacrifice for universal peace. At this stage, the groom tells the bride that by performing the seven steps she has become eternally associated to the groom and their marriage is forever. The bride agrees happily to become his spouse forever and be in love with each other eternally.

On taking these seven steps together and having exchanged these vows of love, duty, respect, fidelity and a fruitful union, the couple agrees to be companions forever and pray that they never have any conflicts so as to break this companionship. Having sought each other out to be life partners, they agree to lead a harmonious life taking into consideration not only each other’s likes and dislikes, but also keeping in mind the good of the entire family. They pray for their unity, prosperity and happiness.

Under Hindu law, a marriage is not complete upon tying the Mangalsutra or ‘the sacred thread of marriage’ alone. According to Hindu law codes [Yalgnavakya Smrithi], completion of the seventh step is the moment of completion of marriage for all legal purposes. A couple is declared husband and wife only after the Saptapadi is complete. The ideals behind the Saptapadi acquire more significance from the fact that the married couple prays not only for their own welfare, but also for the health and prosperity of all living beings and the entire Universe Saptapadi is an integral part of all Hindu marriages, irrespective of the tradition or custom they are followed. However, the manners in which these seven steps are taken differ from place to place. In some South Indian marriages, these seven steps are taken towards the Southern direction with the groom holding the little finger of the bride and then going round the sacred fire. In other marriages, the groom holds the hand of the bride and leads her around the fire seven times. However they are done, the primary objective is to invoke the Gods to shower their blessings on the couple, while the vows are taken by the couple to ensure and guarantee a happily married life.

Every couple should not only chant the vows, but also must strongly believe in them and try to follow the assurances and promises made verbatim in their married life. It is only then they will witness love, affection, trust and prosperity growing among themselves in leaps and bounds. In present day circumstances, where one often finds that love, trust and patience is gradually fading away between the married couples, the vows taken during Saptapadi will help them to remain steady and eliminate any shreds of misunderstanding or differences that grow among couples.

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